Here’s the thing:

calleo:

Yes, you’re allowed to make rape/racist/dirty/sexist/whatever-ist-you-choose jokes.

Yes, you’re allowed to think it’s funny and/or edgy.

Yes, you’re allowed to say, “LOL That’s just his/her/my edgy personality!”

Yes, if you’re in the US and other various countries (but, let’s face it, it’s usually US citizens that bring it up), you have that whole freedom of speech thing.

What you’re forgetting is that the whole freedom of speech thing doesn’t get you a free pass to never hear things you don’t like or things that disagree with your view/opinion; you’re thinking of an echo chamber, and those are unhealthy.


It doesn’t mean you’re free from  hearing other peoples’ opinions on your jokes, ‘sense of humor’, edginess, or overall personality.


It doesn’t mean you’re free from other people disagreeing and telling you they think your opinion is shitty and wrong.


It doesn’t mean that people telling you that are ‘bullying’ you.


It doesn’t mean that people are telling you that you can’t find *insert subject* here a good topic for jokes.

It doesn’t mean people are trying to ‘force you to change your opinion’.


It doesn’t mean people are ‘spreading rumors.’


It doesn’t mean people are ‘causing drama’.

It doesn’t mean that you’re ‘being silenced’.

It doesn’t mean you can pull, “LOL don’t like it, don’t read!” if someone points out that you’ve done/said something gross.


It doesn’t mean you have the right to say whatever you want consequence free.


That’s not—how it works, did you legitimately fail middle school level social studies?

banditbrineshrimp:

avelera:

gothiccharmschool:

Important advice from Stephen King. ALWAYS pay attention to writing advice from Stephen King. 

Now THIS is something I needed to hear.

Oh man I need to tape this on the cover of my drawing pad so bad.

I’m not a fiction writer but I’m going to try to apply this to my research project, because right now it feels like I’ve done complete shit for work. x.x

banditbrineshrimp:

avelera:

gothiccharmschool:

Important advice from Stephen King. ALWAYS pay attention to writing advice from Stephen King. 

Now THIS is something I needed to hear.

Oh man I need to tape this on the cover of my drawing pad so bad.

I’m not a fiction writer but I’m going to try to apply this to my research project, because right now it feels like I’ve done complete shit for work. x.x

(via maderr)

hermioneofvulcan:

star trek ds9 + text posts

(via lemonsweetie)

make me choose
anonymous asked: john/stephen or duke/nathan

(via troubledcaps)

Ten Germans try to say the word “Squirrel”

This made my night.

ahhh this is really cute

THEY’RE TRYING SO HARD

Apparently Jeremy Clarkson was right. XD

(via ruckingfuckingrugby)

Oooookay I love this show a liiitttle too much.

calleo:

tranblogger:

fairlyqueer:

tranblogger:

wtfsocialjustice:

um ok

ask cis person about their pronouns and they either will laugh at you or get offended (“uh are you saying I look genderless or what?”)
ask me about my pronouns and i will never talk to you again because it will give me anxiety (I will feel really dysphoric and in panic that I don’t pass as a man again) 
i’m so tired of ~queer~ activists who are trying to “help” trans people without even asking us if it is helping and not hurting us 

like I get that some non-binary people are okay with it, but most people (hell, most trans people) are not. I don’t expect someone to ask my pronouns. I’ll tell someone my pronouns if I know them well enough to let them know I’m trans. Asking someone’s pronouns is just like asking someone if they’re cis or trans. It’s personal and they’ll tell you if they want to tell you.

Yes, only some non-binary people are ok with it. but I can’t even imagine this working well for other people, like
1. gender conforming cis person will be offended or just like “wtf are you even doing?” 
2. gender non conforming cis person will think it’s another way to insult them because they’re feminine (“not real”) man, or masculine (“not real”) woman. they have probably heard a lot of this shit in their lives already 
3. binary outed trans person will probably get annoyed, like (“I just said I am a trans MAN, why are you all asking me about my pronouns, it is obvious”)
4. closeted trans person will be afraid they are perceived as trans even if they hide it (and usually people are closeted because of serious reasons like own safety)
5. stealth trans person will feel like shit because they will seriously think they somehow don’t pass as their gender (and if you are post-transition, it can be traumatic). how the hell am I supposed to know you’re crazy enough to ask every cis dude about his pronouns, and this is why you asked me, and not because you realized I am not cis 

When I get the obnoxious, prying weirdo that actually asks something like that, my preferred reply is, “Guess”, because the only obnoxious prying weirdos that ask this shit are Tumblr types and I enjoy making them uncomfortable while they try to figure it out and get increasingly more anxious, fearful that they’ll guess incorrectly and offend me.
Once I had someone actually think that I meant my pronouns were “guess”, which was all levels of hilariously amazing.
Also, bolded for emphasis on why it’s just fucking rude to ask random people “their pronouns.”

Uh, correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think the original post was talking about just going up to random people on the street and asking about their pronouns. I think they were talking about doing this at spaces for LGBTQ+ people such as within advocacy groups/gay straight alliances & similar groups. After all, they do say “it’s getting to be a thing in queer spaces…" Maybe the area I live is weird but asking for pronouns at meetings for an LGBTQ+ group is more or less standard practice in my experience. I always thought it was about making sure that we don’t misgender people in a place where everyone is supposed to feel respected. I guess it’s possible they’ve been driving people away because of that though, it never occurred to me!
I do agree that in any other context it’s probably best to be safe and refrain from asking, though.

calleo:

tranblogger:

fairlyqueer:

tranblogger:

wtfsocialjustice:

um ok

ask cis person about their pronouns and they either will laugh at you or get offended (“uh are you saying I look genderless or what?”)

ask me about my pronouns and i will never talk to you again because it will give me anxiety (I will feel really dysphoric and in panic that I don’t pass as a man again) 

i’m so tired of ~queer~ activists who are trying to “help” trans people without even asking us if it is helping and not hurting us 

like I get that some non-binary people are okay with it, but most people (hell, most trans people) are not. I don’t expect someone to ask my pronouns. I’ll tell someone my pronouns if I know them well enough to let them know I’m trans. Asking someone’s pronouns is just like asking someone if they’re cis or trans. It’s personal and they’ll tell you if they want to tell you.

Yes, only some non-binary people are ok with it. but I can’t even imagine this working well for other people, like

1. gender conforming cis person will be offended or just like “wtf are you even doing?” 

2. gender non conforming cis person will think it’s another way to insult them because they’re feminine (“not real”) man, or masculine (“not real”) woman. they have probably heard a lot of this shit in their lives already 

3. binary outed trans person will probably get annoyed, like (“I just said I am a trans MAN, why are you all asking me about my pronouns, it is obvious”)

4. closeted trans person will be afraid they are perceived as trans even if they hide it (and usually people are closeted because of serious reasons like own safety)

5. stealth trans person will feel like shit because they will seriously think they somehow don’t pass as their gender (and if you are post-transition, it can be traumatic). how the hell am I supposed to know you’re crazy enough to ask every cis dude about his pronouns, and this is why you asked me, and not because you realized I am not cis 

When I get the obnoxious, prying weirdo that actually asks something like that, my preferred reply is, “Guess”, because the only obnoxious prying weirdos that ask this shit are Tumblr types and I enjoy making them uncomfortable while they try to figure it out and get increasingly more anxious, fearful that they’ll guess incorrectly and offend me.

Once I had someone actually think that I meant my pronouns were “guess”, which was all levels of hilariously amazing.

Also, bolded for emphasis on why it’s just fucking rude to ask random people “their pronouns.”

Uh, correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think the original post was talking about just going up to random people on the street and asking about their pronouns. I think they were talking about doing this at spaces for LGBTQ+ people such as within advocacy groups/gay straight alliances & similar groups. After all, they do say “it’s getting to be a thing in queer spaces…" Maybe the area I live is weird but asking for pronouns at meetings for an LGBTQ+ group is more or less standard practice in my experience. I always thought it was about making sure that we don’t misgender people in a place where everyone is supposed to feel respected. I guess it’s possible they’ve been driving people away because of that though, it never occurred to me!

I do agree that in any other context it’s probably best to be safe and refrain from asking, though.